November 2022


Meeting Date

November 5, 2022

Reporter’s Name

Sana Samdani

Attending Admins

Amira

Homeschool 101:

No questions/concerns


Topic:

How to Help Our Kids Love and Memorize Quran

Speaker:

Sr. Alia Haleem

Meeting Notes:

On the importance of pursuing Quranic studies: 
“We need to talk to our Rabb in the way that He taught us.”  – referring to the bare minimum in mastering tajweed for salah and du’aa
“A client wants Program ABC, you gave DEF, should the client still pay you?”
“—- No.” 
Are we worshipping [Allah] [in] the best way [as] [how] [He] [instructed] [us]? 
Experience the joy in connecting ayahs and in reciting/revising Quran while feeling dysregulated.
Quran is a life journey. It is meant to be recited, revised, lived. Don’t let your fear of forgetting Quran hold you back from memorizing it.
Practical advice on commencing and continuing Quran study journey: 
  • Be committed to seeking Quranic learning opportunities where and when they present themselves.
“If you can’t commit to 2-3 hours of studying in your community, don’t lie to yourself that you will be committed to studying overseas” – roughly said by Muhammad Al Shareef 
Use time wisely – always carry a pocket Quran with you to practice in your pockets of free time 
(e.g. waiting for the kids after an extracurricular, while in line for groceries etc.) 
  • Commence hifdh journey with a positive mindset with an intention of pleasing Allah. “The deed is by intention.”
“When we start committing, don’t underestimate the power of where Allah will land you.” 
Ask 5 Why questions to understand motives behind studying the Quran. Example is below: https://kanbanize.com/lean-management/improvement/5-whys-analysis-tool
  • Make a chart and explain why doing hifdh – invest 3-4 years in this journey. Track progress visually (star charts, writing ayah names etc.)
  • Have the mindset to memorize the Quran and also embody the akhlaaq that are taught in the Quran [and Sunnah]. If we enjoy the Quran, automatically, Allah will make us memorize it.
  • Commit fully during a lesson to being a student. MInimize all distractions.
  • The more you listen to others’ Quran recitation, the easier it gets to memorize. Listen to other reciters. Have children listen to recitation while playing.
  • Have access to like-minded friends whose children are doing hifdh or studying Quran to normalize the learning experience.
  • Maintain a memorization schedule to revise the new lesson, new revision and old revision. Also focus on tajweed recitation (read the page before memorizing it with perfection)
Parental attitude and demeanour throughout child’s Quran journey: 
  • Hifdh is a whole family lifestyle change that involves memory as much as emotion. Ensure to incorporate Quran study in your lives, make the study slow and gradual, be emotionally present for your children.
  • Make the Quran fun for children. Link it with praying salah (e.g. fajr) and prepare something that the children will look forward to (a delicious breakfast, fajr clothes etc.)
  • There are different avenues to hifdh (part-time, full-time, hifdh + academic program etc.)
Full-time hifdh may feel like ripping a bandaid (painful but when it comes off, the bandaid has served its purpose and may not need to be reapplied). Be flexible and adjust to learning trajectories.
  • We need to be a calm anchor for our child during memorization. Given the pressures experienced during hifdh (especially full-time), be patient and encouraging with your child. Encourage children to develop emotional resilience through journaling and through converting negative experiences into something positive. At the same time, stand up for your child if they experience harsh treatment/criticism from adult expectations of what a hafidh(a) should sound like.
  • There is no need to force your child to memorize the Quran. We have a tradition of shura’ – family consultation. Ibrahim (AS) even consulted Ismail (AS) about sacrifice. The sahaba took 10-20 years to memorize. If a child is experiencing mental and emotional duress, consider pausing hifdh. Focus on the whole well being of the child.
  • Set up a growth mind set environment – children will fail often at memorizing ‘quickly enough’ and will need to review juz over and over. Take breaks, foster a positive relationship with Quran.
  • As a parent, figure out your pain points of the day (e.g. messy house, unrevised lessons from kids, reduced cooking) Ensure to have a backup plan for rainy days to try to achieve balance in the home (in terms of cleanliness, food, learning, quality time with spouse etc.). Maintain one’s own health so as to keep a calm and healthy environment for (hifdh) learning to take place.
  • Imbibe self-development and emotional/mental wellness throughout Quran journey (e.g. journaling to explain feelings encountered while studying Quran)
  • Siblings may experience jealousy with each other’s success in memorization. As a parent, don’t compare, explain that the one who is behind gets more hasanat for trying and the one who is ahead can keep reviewing and learning ahead to get more hasanat. “You each have different superpowers.” 
  • Make a celebration after Surah memorization – a small treat or loved toy can be given

Resources:

  • Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home
  • The Practical Method of Learning and Teaching the Quran – In Memorization and Recitation, with Tajweed and Memory [Mohammad Farooq Mohammad Al Raee]
  • Qaidah Nooraniya

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